Have you ever been told you are too much of something?
Too outspoken.
Too quiet.
Too happy.
Too sad.
Too weak.
Too strong.
Too successful.
Too emotional.
Too nice.
Too fat.
Too thin.
Just too much.
We hear these kinds of phrases when people want to fit us into their box of things they are comfortable with. It can come from wishing they had more of your “too much” or it can even be remnants of unprocessed feelings or trauma they may have experienced.
I want you to really pay attention, to what I say next.
You are not responsible for how other people perceive you. (read that again)
Should you be a kind person? Yes. Should you be respectful of others? Yes. That’s not what I’m talking about here, though. When you are being true to who you are and someone tells you that something you love about yourself, is “too much”, let it go. You’re not meant to carry that.
I’ve been told I’m too soft spoken and too loud, too weak and too strong, too sad and too happy, too fat and too thin, all by different people. This speaks more about how everyone may see you differently and less about who you are as a person. You are not meant to carry their feelings about you.
The important thing is to not let anyone dull your shine. If people in your life can’t handle your strengths and what you bring to the table, they aren’t your people anyway. Your people are going to see you as the perfect amount of everything that you are. Your people are going to appreciate the vibes you bring into their lives. Don’t be worried about making the wrong people uncomfortable with what they deem “too much”. You have permission to protect your energy from the people who don’t appreciate you. You have permission to be whatever the heck it is that someone says you’re “too much” of. Carry yourself proudly.
Don’t try to fit yourself into other people’s boxes. You don’t belong there. That’s their box, so you let them worry about it. If you try to become what other’s want you to be be, it just fosters unhappiness within you and who wants to waste life being unhappy? When you love someone – could be a parent, spouse, sibling or a friend – you can take what they say about you to heart and turn it into what you believe about yourself. If you start to worry if you’re too much of something, ask yourself where it’s coming from.
You are not a burden. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be listened to. You are good enough. I am proud of you and you are not too much of anything.
Peace. Love. Be yourself
-M
Relatively Monica 